Is he too good to be true?
Starting a conversation with an attractive person can be a nerveracking experience. In fact, many people are so intimidated by them that they altogether avoid all the attractive people they don’t know. The solution to this problem is to overcome your “knee jerk” reaction and learn to approach them with confidence. Here are some tips to help you do it:
1. Ignore your excuses:
One of the best ways to move forward and start a conversation is to learn to ignore your own excuses: “He’ll never like me”; “She’ll think I’m desperate”. All these excuses come from the desire to stay in your “comfort zone”. As soon as you notice these excuses in your head, stop thinking, go over and start talking. You’ll be glad you did.
2. Screw up big time:
Are you a perfectionist? If so, work on restraining your need to get things just right. When you expect to have perfect interactions, you put too much pressure on yourself, which makes it harder to take action. Even if you mess up, be happy with yourself for taking the initiative.
3.Be courageous:
How would you define courage? Is it having no fear of doing “scary” stuff ? Actually, the correct definition of courage is “the ability to take action in spite of fear”. The next time you want to talk to someone but begin to feel nervous, see it as an opportunity to put behind your apprehensions at rest and channel your fear to make the conversation happen. Your self-confidence will definitely get an instant boost, and you might just meet someone great in this process.
4.Don’t pressurise yourself:
If you see someone you would like to meet, immediately considering them as a potential date creates pressure. Instead, look at the next person you meet as an opportunity to work on your “skills”. This helps you to be less attached to the outcome; in turn, making you more relaxed and more likely to start the conversation. Don’t forget: You also improve the chances of it turning out to be a fun experience for everyone.
5.Consider your emotions:
One reason you hesitate to start talking is because it feels uncomfortable to take the leap. But the fact is, it’s more uncomfortable not to. Because, if you don’t approach them, you’ll wish you had, and you’ll carry that regret with you for the rest of the day. Save yourself the agony and go talk.
6.Use fear:
Learn to make fear your friend. Next time you’re afraid to say something to someone, realise that fear is a sign that you need to start the interaction. Using fear as a guide allows you to stretch your comfort zone, become more confident and meet new people. Just get it done and you’ll feel great!
7.Make the move:
Do you want to know a simple yet effective trick to get unstuck? Stop trying to figure out what you’re going to say and just begin moving in their direction. On the way over, you’ll naturally notice something you can comment on and use that to start the conversation —no matter how simple it may be. The key is to say something to get the ball rolling and let things progress from there.
1. Ignore your excuses:
One of the best ways to move forward and start a conversation is to learn to ignore your own excuses: “He’ll never like me”; “She’ll think I’m desperate”. All these excuses come from the desire to stay in your “comfort zone”. As soon as you notice these excuses in your head, stop thinking, go over and start talking. You’ll be glad you did.
2. Screw up big time:
Are you a perfectionist? If so, work on restraining your need to get things just right. When you expect to have perfect interactions, you put too much pressure on yourself, which makes it harder to take action. Even if you mess up, be happy with yourself for taking the initiative.
3.Be courageous:
How would you define courage? Is it having no fear of doing “scary” stuff ? Actually, the correct definition of courage is “the ability to take action in spite of fear”. The next time you want to talk to someone but begin to feel nervous, see it as an opportunity to put behind your apprehensions at rest and channel your fear to make the conversation happen. Your self-confidence will definitely get an instant boost, and you might just meet someone great in this process.
4.Don’t pressurise yourself:
If you see someone you would like to meet, immediately considering them as a potential date creates pressure. Instead, look at the next person you meet as an opportunity to work on your “skills”. This helps you to be less attached to the outcome; in turn, making you more relaxed and more likely to start the conversation. Don’t forget: You also improve the chances of it turning out to be a fun experience for everyone.
5.Consider your emotions:
One reason you hesitate to start talking is because it feels uncomfortable to take the leap. But the fact is, it’s more uncomfortable not to. Because, if you don’t approach them, you’ll wish you had, and you’ll carry that regret with you for the rest of the day. Save yourself the agony and go talk.
6.Use fear:
Learn to make fear your friend. Next time you’re afraid to say something to someone, realise that fear is a sign that you need to start the interaction. Using fear as a guide allows you to stretch your comfort zone, become more confident and meet new people. Just get it done and you’ll feel great!
7.Make the move:
Do you want to know a simple yet effective trick to get unstuck? Stop trying to figure out what you’re going to say and just begin moving in their direction. On the way over, you’ll naturally notice something you can comment on and use that to start the conversation —no matter how simple it may be. The key is to say something to get the ball rolling and let things progress from there.
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